Have you ever started seeing someone and thought, Is this person too good for me? They might be so attractive, successful, intelligent, well-traveled and interesting, that you start to feel like they’re out of your league. The question is: Is this a legitimate reason to stop seeing someone?

When you begin to have thoughts like that, it’s important to recognize them as insecurity, and not reality. The most important thing that brings two people together is values, not achievements. It isn’t necessary for a couple to have an identical list of credentials and accomplishments. While you may look at them with awe for who they are, they may be looking at you, valuing all of the wonderful things you are.

Take a moment and really think about everything you bring to the table. Don’t just think about the way you look, your career, or list of accomplishments. Think about what you have to offer mentally and emotionally. Connecting with a person on those deeper levels is one of the most important aspects of building a relationship that will last.

If you are feeling insecure about measuring up to the person you are dating, the best thing you can do is keep yourself from projecting your insecurity onto that person. Think more about how your values align with those of the person you’re seeing, and whether you could see yourself with this person long-term.