“Hope and fear cannot occupy the same space. Invite one to stay.”
Joining a matchmaking firm requires some degree of vulnerability. After all, you’re stripping back the layers of yourself and sharing those intimate details and desires with a team of “strangers” who will help you find true love. We get it; it’s a tall order, but the payout is huge. If you’re flirting with the idea of being matched, consider the following advice from Kelleher International Executive Matchmaker, Nahla Grafer, to help you have fun and relax during the process.
“Nothing good comes from fear and worry. It’s your responsibility to align with what you want, and mine is to be inspired to find your match,” Nahla says.
Aside from vulnerability, a successful experience with a matchmaking firm requires an equal amount of hope. Attitude is everything, and will without a doubt, shape your experience. “You have to be the very thing you want to attract! You can’t expect to have the best of someone if you don’t connect with the best of who you are,” Nahla explains.
The life of a matchmaker isn’t always as glamorous as it might appear. To be great at the craft, sometimes matchmakers deliver tough love and unsolicited advice. Those conversations are difficult, and clients don’t always like what they hear but that’s where hope and a growth mindset work their magic. “Trusting the process can be hard for clients, especially influential executives who have an inclination to control the experience,” Nahla adds. A natural unfolding can feel foreign to a micro manager, but once you learn to relax and let go, you’ll find pleasure in savoring the waiting. And, believe it or not, you’ll begin to appreciate the raw and honest dialogue you share with your matchmaker.
So, what do you think? Are you ready to get real, be open to possibility, and share your life with someone? Nahla and the rest of the hopeful, straight-shooting matchmakers of Kelleher International are excited to take the journey with you. And since all incredible adventures need a beginning – Give us a call to map out the process – that’ll be a great first step.