Is it possible men benefit from marriage more than women? Our Los Angeles matchmaking service has seen its fair share of auspicious dates and unions, but the stereotype of the unwilling groom drug to the altar still permeates modern culture.
So, which is it? Do men reap the benefits of wedded bliss or do their wedding bands signify a bond rigid enough to break?
Research yields surprising results. According to a study published in the Journal of Family Psychology, men do not benefit from cohabitation, but rather from the act of marriage itself. It’s only when the ring is on the finger that men receive a dip in emotional distress. Ladies, this may be the science of your dreams.
The Council on Contemporary Families reports two thirds of newlyweds live together before marriage. Women receive an immediate drop in emotional distress from cohabitation, but men do not. Something different is happening with men during the live-in girlfriend situation.
Science suggests men use cohabitation as a “test” period. Our matchmakers urge couples to use caution during this phase of a relationship since the stress of testing each other can aggravate problems such as poor communication, physical aggression or decreased commitment. Both genders need to tread carefully and be respectful of each other’s space while living together.
“What leads to divorce is when people move in with someone – with or without a marriage license – before they have the maturity and experience to choose compatible partners and to conduct themselves in ways that can sustain a long-term relationship. Early entry into marriage or cohabitation, especially before age 23, is the critical risk factor for divorce,” said Dr. Arielle Kuperberg, Assistant Professor of Sociology at The University of North Carolina at Greensboro.
Research still points to cohabitation as being protective against divorce for both genders. Los Angeles is full of accomplished singles, and the right dating service can help guide you through big decisions like this even later in your relationship. Our matchmakers have helped create countless successful connections in Los Angeles.
What is our secret to recognizing a relationship that lasts? Start by dating someone who makes you feel that spark! Couples need compatibility and chemistry to be successful in a relationship. You can’t manufacture that – you either have it, or you don’t.
That’s advice you can take all the way to the altar.