Step Away from the Selfie Stick


Selfie: it’s more than just Oxford Dictionary’s 2013 Word of the Year. It’s a cultural phenomenon that has swept the globe! Selfies dominate social media, mobile phone backgrounds and even photo frames on our desks and mantles. The news has covered many bizarre cases where selfies were to blame for traffic accidents or injuries. Certain cities are even considering “no selfie zones” in the interest of public safety. The extent to which technology has taken over our lives is astounding!

Our elite dating experts at Kelleher Los Angeles will be the first to tell you technology is no friend to relationships. Smart phones make for a distracting dinner date, limit the development of authentic communication and take you out of the real moment trying to capture it with your phone… selfies included! We believe there needs to be a shift away from technology and back to genuine human connections. This will improve both your social life and your love life!

Recent studies suggest our phones might impact us more than we would like to admit. In fact, selfies may prompt jealousy in relationships. Florida State University researchers Jessica Ridgway and Russell Clayton explored the associations of body image, Instagram photos and negative relationship outcomes in their most recent study. The results indicated excessive selfie-posting on social media can lead to jealousy – and rightfully so! Who wants someone else looking at their love interest?

Los Angeles is no stranger to selfies. Our matchmaking services have been a haven for many people who are simply tired of competing against cell phones, tablets and Apple watches for attention on dates. Our clients want a real, honest connection. That’s something you simply can’t find through a screen.

Additional studies claim selfies cause negative body image, including what dentists have dubbed “dental dysmorphia.” Many selfie-takers inaccurately assume the poor resolution of their cell phone images is an accurate representation of their looks in real life. Nothing could be further from the truth!

“We have seen a 30 percent rise over five years in the number of patients sending in selfies through the website with concerns about the look of their front teeth, yet when the patients come in person, often the teeth don’t look too bad at all,” says Tim Bradstock-Smith, clinical director of the London Smile Clinic.

So, what can you do to reduce the impact of selfies in your life? A lot! Our matchmakers recommend leaving your phone in a bag and out of sight when out and about in Los Angeles. Create your own “no phone zone” at the dinner table so you can get one-on-one time with your date. Most importantly: don’t let selfies determine how you feel about yourself or your date. What matters most is the time you spend together in person – not the face on your social media profiles.

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