Love in the Age of the Internet


According to research run by Workplace Options, distracted workers cost U.S. businesses $650 billion per year. Our clients are at the top of the food chain, so it’s easy to imagine how frustrating this figure must be in the context of a workplace environment. Now imagine the “business” of your love life. If you could estimate how much time was spent distracted by technology instead of paying attention to your date, what would the damage be? Chances are, you don’t really want to think about it.

Technology is everywhere. It’s required to run successful businesses, connect to consumers worldwide, and even run your personal social life. Social media makes it easy to share moments and capture memories you want to remember. But what happens when your technology use crosses the line into other parts of your life? Even if you can handle the onslaught of messages, “likes,” and urgent meeting notifications, are your loved ones able to do the same?

One of the biggest complaints we get from people who have been finding their own dates is that corporate culture has taken over Los Angeles. Our matchmakers have seen it all: from the selfie-obsessed marketing maven to the techie who would rather play with his Apple watch than have a conversation with his date. The good news is that these people are not our clients. Our clients have one primary goal and that is to build a lasting relationship with someone they love.

Part of the “technology problem” is really just a maturity problem. While other people have a take-it-or-leave-it attitude regarding relationships, our clients are invested in finding love. They know better than to play with technology on dates because they are invested in finding a meaningful relationship. Because of this, our clients naturally get higher quality conversations. The other part of this is to set clear technological boundaries. Both you and your partner need to know what is expected of you at different times of day, so there are no surprises when someone whips out a phone.

Why We Need to Change Our Technology Habits
Technology is great when it’s used properly, and is damaging when it’s used out of turn. Using a smartphone in the middle of a conversation is equivalent to interrupting the person you’re with. Our top five reasons to reduce your screen time:

  • Regain mindfulness
  • Improve the quality of your communication
  • Reconnect to the “real world”
  • Prioritize real life over virtual life
  • Reduce reliance on mobile alerts

Create Rules for Technology Use
The best way to reduce technology use is to create solid boundaries that both you and your partner agree on. Popular rules include refraining from phone use at the dinner table and making the bedroom a tech-free zone entirely. Studies show that something as basic as a television in the bedroom can significantly harm both your sex life and your sleep schedule. You need both to function like a regular human being in the morning. If you have to use technology for an emergency during a “tech free” time, make it up to your partner with an extra date that week or a small token of your affection. There are penalties for breaking the rules, but it’s important that even those strengthen your relationship to avoid resentment. If you really feel that technology is causing a rift in your relationships, consider a technology-free vacation and travel somewhere without cell phone reception for a weekend.

Discover a connection without the WiFi. Los Angeles is a great city for dating, and our matchmakers can prove it! Contact us today to learn more about personalized matchmaking services you can trust.

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